Web-Vid Wednesday VIII

This week's selection: A pair of couples get down to coupling.

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Jez says: Today is going to be a half-ass Web-Vid Wednesday, as I am sick as a... (you know, how "sick" do "dogs" get, anyway?) Anyhow, today's clip really isn't all that original and the people in it are pedestrian porn-actors at best, BUT they do seem into it, as I'm finding most of the "actors" are from Vivthomas. I will also say, the editing in this video is quite good, keeping the momentum moving at an unusually fast pace for a porn... which I think I like.

But what I like most about this is that it's very topical to something Cane and I have been discussing recently and wanting to get into: MGS-- that is, "monogamous group sex". We really want to find another couple or small group of couples and all get down &dirty in the same room.... and this video only spurs that urge more!

Cane says: (over the phone with Jez taking dictation) Hello readers... I'm currently driving around at 9:30 at night, trying to find somewhere that is still serving fresh chicken-noodle soup, as my sick-as-Hell lady-lover pretty much looks and sounds like Linda Blaire from The Exorcist... HEY! THAT'S NOT FUCKING NICE, DICK!.... sorry, honey... i mean she looks like a young Nicole Kidman, framed beautifully against the backdrop of an open countryside from that movie, "Far and Away". ...YOU THINK I LOOK LIKE THAT FROZEN-FACED CREEPY MANNEQUIN?!... no dear, whatever you want to look like, you're beautiful. Anyway, I'm not able to review this week's video, but Jez described it to me over the phone, and yes, it only serves to get me thinking more about hosting a monogamous orgy. Jez craves nothing more than to fuck in front of an audience. My question is, who will be in that audience?

Him: Choke

Cane at work.

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Ass Wrap!

So ends our inaugural "Ass Week, 2010" (sniffle)! I hope all the pictures and articles were as arousing as they were intended to be!

For all you boys out there who still have your anal-cherry, I hope you'll consider losing it to your woman (or man), because being a bottom can be just as rewarding! Be sure to write us and tell us how it goes!

Finally, to bookend this wondrous week of ass, below is yet another picture of my lovely bud. Well, Cane says it's lovely, at least ;-)

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Pic-Fridays VII

Every Friday, we present choice-cuts of photo-erotica, as discovered in the dark depths of the abyss that is the internet.

Jez says: I like this picture because it's oddly intimate for a shot of a strap-on in action. Most photographs are always so aggressive in nature--but this one has a quality about it that makes me want to believe that they are really lovers. The man is masculine. The woman is feminine. And she is about to penetrate him. I'm always a sucker for black & white photographs as well.

I'm also thinking this might be a better position for Cane and I to try--so he can control the depth and the thrusts. Sans those wretched french tips!

Cane says: I yarn a lot about MMF’s, so I thought I’d change it up a bit. What seems like your standard male-fantasy of two women at once is slightly askew, as one lovely gal is slipping him a digit; it’s just something you don’t see too often out in the open, and that makes me appreciate it all the more. This pic makes me wonder what else is in store for this lucky-lad’s bum and a two:one ratio!

Strap-On Nation

....A feminine reflection on penetrating the male.
by Jezebel

I love fucking Cane in the ass. I absolutely go wild. There is one fundamental aspect of sex that is ALWAYS essential for me to really enjoy it. I want to feel owned ... to feel dominated ... out of control. Probably why I really get off on doggy style; something about the position suggests being powerless. You are being used and dominated by a cock. I love the weight of the man on top ... the idea that I can't free myself ... the fact that I can't control the pace. Want to see me really lose it in bed? Take the control away from me.

or ...

Give it all to me and abandon the wheel. The pleasure of plowing into Cane has been insanely hot; he moans like an owned man... completely at my mercy. Those moments where he gasps are like heroin to me. addictive. I can go fast ... or slow ... it's all up to me. I love it when he catches his breath and I realize that a thrust has given him some incredible sensation. I am theoretically inside of him ... and that is unbelievably hot, too. He whimpers. He sighs. He is all mine.

I love dominating him. I even enjoy those moments he begs me to be more gentle (though I want to note here to female readers that it is ESSENTIAL to heed this request) because it confirms that I am indeed in control. And the possessive side of me wants to own every inch of this man ... even what is inside.

You know what is amazing? When you fuck a man just right in the ass, he will turn around and fuck you so hard you think you've won the lottery. I think next time I should make him suck “my cock”. Let him feel what it's like to choke on a member. I have a feeling he'll love it as much as i do.

Now Cane already gave a very nice male perspective on approaching anal ... but I think it might benefit some of you out there to get the feminine perspective.

Cane and I have definitely found that this blog is helping to motivate us to be more honest about sex--what we like, what we want, and yes ... those things that typically are hard to express. You know what I'm talking about ... most of us have a few desires that fill us with shame. Even if we know better. Even if we possess the most amazing partner in the universe who loves us and adores us regardless. Certain things are just so damn difficult to be open about.

But Cane is willing to try and be open--to have a conversation even about the most terrifying of subjects (for a male) ... taking it up the ass. Cane will be the first to tell you, it wasn't an easy conversation for him to have. Sure ... over the years he's hinted at being interested. He's occasionally (in a hot and heavy moment) conveyed his desire. He even bravely broached his bisexuality (gently saying he thought he was a tiny bit so). But when it came down to really making strap-ons and anal a regular part of our sex life HE was the one that always seemed reluctant.

Here's the deal: Googling other blogs and checking out the popular male voice on the subject, it's obvious: Most men in heterosexual relationships are terrified of anal on some level. Even if they have the guts to let you do it a few times, even if they really REALLY enjoy it ... there is this self-imposed stigma that permeates the world. "She'll think less of me. I'll be less of a man in her eyes" or "She's going to worry I'm gay" or even "What if it freaks her out if I love it too much?" The anus is a very vulnerable spot for all of us, and truth be told it's easy to overanalyze the consequences of using the back door. I don't blame men. I believe this issue for them can take them emotionally down the same rabbit hole that some women go down when they agonize over "will he think I'm a slut if I sleep with him right away?" There is the idea that you'll do some sort of damage that can't be fixed. That you'll be forever changed in your partner's eyes. And likely you will ... but that isn't a bad thing as long as you communicate the entire time. Talking about it can bring you closer. I swear.

You see, Cane and I discussed this recently. I knew he loved it. I knew he wanted it. But I couldn't quite comprehend why it doesn't happen much. I can count on one hand the number of times I've had his ass--and we've been together 2 years. The reluctance confused me. Typical female, I actually felt a little rejected. Way to go Jez, why don't you make it about yourself. What men have to remember is that just because it's YOUR ASS being discussed doesn't mean that your girlfriend or wife isn't being affected by the situation. If you've indicated any level of interest, but then not gone there, then she may very well be convinced that your reluctance is because of her ... for all sorts of reasons.

We talked about it. He was beautifully honest. He expressed his concerns, reservations--and they all made sense. I'm a loving partner. Very supportive. But we all have internal dialogues with ourselves that aren't always easy to silence. He was dealing with his own.

I don't need to regale you with details on our own personal conversation about the subject. The truth is that I love him unconditionally and I want to meet his needs and desires. He had to make me understand that his issues were independent of me. More or less, I want to address those (men) of you out there and set the record straight. There are a lot of you who struggle in this area and I think it's unfair. So here are several things you need to know from the female perspective:

1. Enjoying anal sex (meaning YOU taking it in the ass) should not make a woman question your heterosexuality. Gay men want to be fucked by other men. Not just have a dildo in their ass. Applying that logic, you (as a straight male) are not gay--your arousal is due to having a woman on the other end, donning a strap-on and owning you. Having something in your ass is not an indicator of sexuality. Relax. Would you call a woman a lesbian because she wants oral? Does a dildo in a woman mean she’s cheating on you? Of course not, silly.

2. Poo happens. Cane covered this effectively--but I just want to reiterate from the female side that we, too, have to be forgiving and understanding of what might happen when we use the exit for entry.

3. A real man is the man who knows how to talk about what he is feeling. This means if he wants to feel a cock in his ass he is capable of saying "Hey honey, how about railing me with your strap-on?" A real man is comfortable in his own skin and unafraid of what his penchants suggest about him. He KNOWS who he is. He'll tell you and he'll happily explain his various tastes and interests to you (his partner). He won't get angry or insecure ... well, okay let's just admit there is a learning curve here and say that if he starts to, he'll apologize and try to be more open later. It takes practice, but we all are capable. Your partner's feelings matter. They should be somewhat open to what you are wanting, but you have to be prepared for their own emotions. Be as honest as you can in answering questions. Don't retreat into silence or shyness when you feel exposed by their probing. Your partner wants to understand you. This can bring you even closer if you lay all your cards on the table. If you refuse to be totally open, you will risk damaging the relationship--because women are guilty of reading into things and making the wrong assumptions. Truth and candidness are the best ways to combat misunderstanding.

We all get a little insecure from time to time. And it makes sense that it can happen to any of us. Society dictates so many ideas about male/female roles and often makes us feel conflicted in admitting what we want.

The key is to not let your insecurity bend you over and have it's way with you ... the key is to leave that to your partner.

(***note: unfortunately, the photos in this entry are not us. But do not fret, Secretive Slut strap-on pics are in the works!)

Web-Vid Wednesday VII

This week’s selection: It’s Ass-Week 2010 at the Secretive Slut, so let’s watch a REALLY enthusiastic girl be pounded harder than Cane would in his first night at a federal prison (get it? because Cane is soooo pretty!).

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Jez says: Though personally my own rear end isn't ready for such rough-housing ... you have to hand it to the girl in this one as she's totally game for a pounding on her back door. I think it's more her enthusiasm than anything that makes this one fun to watch. I loved the way she reached her arm up and back to wrap around his neck. She and he are obviously in unison about the pacing. It was a tiny bit disconcerting when voices come out of nowhere giving directives to her. I had no idea there would be audience participation. But our heroine quickly gives them what they want and crows as he goes as deep as he can. Wow.

Pleasure? Pain? The guy never ceases to ram her hard. I didn't think she could be any more excited until I saw her blow him at the end. If she was faking for the camera, I'd never know it. She is still moaning and begging all the way until he climaxes deep in her throat. Bravo.

Cane says: I know I’ve been desensitized when I consider anal-porn vids pretty vanilla. Not that I didn’t appreciate the ardent devotion this chick had for hosting someone in her pooper... nary are girls in porn who I really believe are getting the fucking of a lifetime they seem to otherwise vocally impart. But not this chick: she LOVES the punishment her most private hole is getting... so cheers!

But I found sifting through literally dozens and dozens of anal-clips with Jez, I just found myself bored and uninterested; I mean at least give me a quality DAP (double-anal) that doesn’t star your typical super-skank. Alas, for all the perverted, shame-filled thoughts I have about sex, I barely raise an eyebrow to straight-forward anal.

(and on a side-note: this chick’s back is RIPPED. Definitely a former gymnast or swimmer.)

However, as mentioned, this girl’s feverish ass-in-heat paired with a nice big cock (despite some serious gardening needed), is a pretty raw, down&dirty quickie.

...ATM’s still weird me out, though, man.

Her: Where It Shines

With Cane's ass getting the spotlight yesterday, it's my turn now! (well, a photo, at least)... My ass is always such an attention whore.

And the irony does not escape me that I'd rather show you my holiest of holes... instead of my face.

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Penetration Nation

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Us: Shone

What's with these semi-ostentatious titles for our personal pictures? And who uses the word 'ostentatious' in real life? On the other hand, "Dick in Sunshine" doesn't quite convey the level of 'class' we're attempting.

This was a great afternoon of sex and pics-- video, too. Plenty of stuff for future posts, so stay frosty!

All images Copyright: 'The Secretive Slut', 2010

Pic-Fridays VI

Every Friday, we present choice-cuts of photo-erotica, as discovered in the dark depths of the abyss that is the internet.

Jez says: My submission for today (you know I can never limit myself to just ONE!) revolve around a similar theme. I love tangled limbs. Being held in strong arms. Sometimes that is all it takes to turn me on ... suddenly being conscious of Cain's arm snaked around me in some way that makes me feel small and protected--even "owned."

I think it's very erotic to see lovers limbs all intertwined--because you know that the scenario is sweet and comforting, but yet there is the suggestion that those arms can quickly become forceful and demanding. The first two images have that gentle power to them. The man is encircling the woman with his arms. She's submitting to the embrace, and wrapping herself around him as well. You can see how relaxed the women's faces are ... how pleased they must be to find themselves in that position. The men are gentle but I like to think their embraces will slowly get more and more deliberate and intense. Their hands will roam and demand more.

I also think it's nice because it could either be before or after sex.

This last image is a little more dominant ... because the woman is blindfolded. A man is still embracing her, and she is submitting ... but it's clear he's in control and taking what he wants. Very erotic. As a woman both things are so attractive and desired ... to be embraced gently and with feeling ... and also manhandled and used.

Cane says: Jez’s last post got me having nothing but lesbians on the mind. Things could be worse. To echo the theme of her entry, this first pic seems like “the right way” to go about one’s pussy eatin’. I mean, the chick is just GOING for it, nose mashed in and all. I believe the title of the picture was “Vacuum”; pretty apparent why!

The second pic plays to the fantasy world where all lesbians are pearls and lace... siiiigh. Though maybe not a true representation of what the general lesbian populous is really like (Jez and her gorgeous former lover excluded)... I will continue to live in my myopic wondrous world of mythological lipstick, same-sex lovers...

...and they are doing just that. Lounging around in necklaces and black-lacey under-thingies, constantly campaigning to remove what little either has on, with their teeth. I especially love the placement of the submissive one’s hand... a gentle, but overt grip on the other’s inner thigh. I just want to know where the OTHER pictures from this shoot are!