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End of Season 1

No, this does not mean we're going off the air permanently. We had a strong "first season", but now it's time to take a break, recharge the batteries (in my vibrator), come up with some new articles and new adventures to divulge...and we'll be back with Secretive Slut: Season 2, shortly! In the meantime, feel free to keep sending us questions, comments, and a new developing section: picture requests!

But what would a season finale be without big CLIFFHANGER? Hopefully this cavalcade of nudity of Cane and myself will leave you hanging ;-)

(Season 2 premiere, spoiler-alert: Will Cane's MFM cuckold/hotwife fantasy finally be fulfilled??!! Tune in soon!)

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Her: So Often

So often does Cane see me from this view...

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Back to blogging ...

Oh readers ...

Life gets busy ... or complicated ... or just plain intense sometimes. Cane and I still have sex on the brain but we also have our careers, friends and families to nurture. Cane is hard at work and focused on taking his career to a new level. I'm proud of him for it because it takes not only time but great dedication. I'm attempting to do something of a similar sort and fighting for motivation. Sometimes I can't decide if there are not enough hours in the day, or if I'm just slowing down. There is so much to write and so little left over of either of us at the end of the day that we've chosen to actually fuck rather than post about it. It was one or the other, and to be frank the fucking should always take precedent.

A lot of you submitted videos the other week when I asked for recommendations. Thank you! We got a nice variety of clips ... some of you out there are dirty little birds! It's always fun to see what other people are watching, and to even consider things that aren't usually my own cup of tea. Cane and I had fun viewing them together--as well as getting nasty immediately after. I find that even videos that are more humorous than sexy can lead to a fun romp afterwards. Laughter is a big bedroom element for us and I like that.

So, for today's Web Vid Wednesday ... here is a video submitted by one of you (his name was Chris ... thank you Chris!). He mentioned he wished his girlfriend would administer a blow job as enthusiastic as this one. It is a nice blow job by a very cute girl. It's obvious she enjoys giving it almost as much as her boy likes receiving it. I personally found the man's noises and moans a bit off-putting ... I thought it was weird but then Cane mentioned it, too. The dude moaned in a creepy way! But the girl smiles and makes eye contact all throughout the morning event only to thank him for "breakfast" at the end. What a trooper. Definitely a nice bird's eye view of one of Cane's favorite activities. A recent conversation with Cane revealed that he could not make it through life without blow jobs. When I asked if intercourse would suffice, he sweetly informed me that as great as my vagina is, he'd be wishing it had a tongue. Note to Chris: Your girlfriend should see this video. This is the kind of BJ a good girlfriend should LOVE to give her boyfriend. I was pleased when Cane (upon viewing the video) turned to me and said "You give me blow jobs like this all the time!" Damn straight I do.

Enjoy the video HERE ... and keep the suggestions coming! We'll have more slutty goodness for you soon.

xo

SLUT

That word ... just sitting there alone in all caps seems so ... harsh and ugly. What is a slut? A bad thing? A good thing? Is it shameful to enjoy sex? To seek it out? To have it with others? Should a woman live her life avoiding that title?

Those questions have very obvious answers to me. But then again, even I use the word in more than one way. I call myself "The Secretive Slut" in a teasing sex-positive way. I imply that I present an innocent face to the world, but in private I am a sex fiend. I like it, and yet I have to ask myself why even I feel compelled to hide the extent of my sluttishness from the world. Why, when glimpsing the fake-titted bleach blonde bimbos in Hollywood do I quietly call them a "slut" with a negative intent? How does that differ from what I am? Why has this word become so convoluted?

I think we need to devise a way to differentiate the two ... the good slut from the bad slut. The slut it's fun to be, and the slut you hope you never are. I call myself a slut because I have a raging libido. I can have sex multiple times a day and not be sated. I'm ready to go anytime and all the time. I'm happy to let you wake me up for it. I love sucking cock. I love being fucked. And I'm the kind of girl who will quietly go out of her way to take care of this need when stuck in "single mode." Just like my friend whom I'm about to mention.

Three of our friends share a house. Two of the roommate are guys and one is a girl. The girl is one of my dearest friends on earth. The guys are very close with Cane. One (we'll call him Z) has a crush on my girlfriend ... or should I say "had" a crush. Till he heard her have sex two nights in a row (the walls are thin) ... with two different men. He was disgusted and revolted by the idea that she was sleeping with several men (who don't know about each other). He was incensed that she was not even embarrassed in front of her housemates by it. She hadn't mentioned these hookups to me ... and probably because she knows the prevailing attitudes of the world toward women who have a lot of sex with random partners. Z sheepishly admitted the unfairness of his sentiments, but also confessed he couldn't help it. His crush has vanished ... all he sees when he looks at her is a "slut."

I pointed out that while I am not sure why she hadn't wanted to be a little more clandestine in her hooking up, the fact that she had done what she had done only put her in the ranks of most guys I know (Z included--he has some stories). I think most men (even if it was only a brief youthful period) have experienced fucking lots of women who were unaware of one another. I've heard countless war stories about dudes who got head in a bar bathroom from one "bar slut" only to leave with a different girl, have sex with her ... and then go out on a date the next night and fuck that girl, too. And don't forget how many men have at one point or another cheated on a girlfriend--that means sex with more than one person at a time. Even nice guys don't always see anything wrong with dating a lot of people at once and having sex with all of them (individually). But men get high fives for such behavior. People think it's funny when a dude is managing to juggle a lot of tail at once. Women get branded a "SLUT"--and not in a sexy fun sort of way.

But we women are just as guilty of having these attitudes. I'm disgusted sometimes by male friend's really bawdy tales ... and yet at the same time, I don't find it half as revolting as knowing some girl who falls in bed with a stranger every time she has a little too much to drink. I'm just as guilty of having a double standard as my male counterparts. Women should in essence be allowed to openly enjoy and seek sex--just like men do. If I enjoy sex and love it ... I can call myself a slut. If you enjoy sex and love it ... you can call yourself a slut. If I'm being fucked by Cane, he can call me a slut. But somehow any other use just carries a negative connotation.

Do I think my friend is a negative kind of slut? No. Do I think she is entitled as a single woman to date who she wants and have sex when she wants? Absolutely. Is she making foolish decisions at the moment? Probably. But not because she's tarnishing her reputation with her housemates. It's because I know her and I know what she really wants and all this hooking up is really more about her need for a relationship than a desire to have crazy sex. She's in the process of trying to make several shoes fit in hopes of one sticking. Sex isn't the smartest way to accomplish that. But she has every right to get laid, and as frequently as she would like. I'm of the mind that dating/sleeping with multiple people at once isn't kind or smart--unless you have told everyone about each other. She isn't telling her dates about one another, so these guys are likely assuming more is at play in terms of relationship. Someone could get hurt ... or an STD. But that is the only thing in this situation I frown upon. Her having sex two nights in a row with two different men ... well, I just don't think that makes her some horrible slut as opposed to guys who would happily do the same thing. If I'm totally honest, I'll admit that I've given a BJ to one guy one day ... and turned around and slept with another the next. These things happen. To fuck is human.

Z sees the double standard. He knows it isn't fair, either. He just can't mentally get past his own idea of her ... she fell off the pedestal in his mind and he can't do anything about it. But the truth is that he's probably revolted not by the fact that she was behaving like a slut, but that she wasn't being a slut WITH HIM. Hooking up with your housemate isn't necessarily smart, but he wouldn't have frowned upon that occurring. Once again, double standard. The worst kind of slut is not to be slandered, rather, pitied instead. She sleeps with men seeking affirmation because she has zero self worth. She isn't seeking the pleasure of sex ... she's seeking validation. Sex doesn't validate, it just stimulates. Therefore, this is a tragic and misguided reason to be a slut. Men seldom stick with a girl with no confidence or value in herself ... so such women often drift partner to partner on and on. Pity those sluts. They are the slut you don't want to be.

The other night, Cane had a lot to drink. He was having a good old time. Several of our friends were far too drunk to drive, so they crashed in our living room while we went to bed. To my surprise, Cane was raging horny. He was all over me with everyone right outside our bedroom. I'm loud. He shocked me by holding me down, ripping my legs open and ramming his fingers up inside of me. Every time I gasped he would push his elbow into my neck and whisper "Don't you fucking make a sound. You fucking slut. You love this don't you?" Wow. He rarely brings out the dirty talk and I LOVED it. I loved being called a slut. I loved being treated roughly. He bit my lips so hard I've got cuts on them. I was dripping into his hand and he surprised me by shoving his fingers into my mouth and making me taste myself. "You're a good little slut aren't you? You enjoy tasting yourself on me." Um, YES! When he joined me in tasting it I think I came. I'm not sure. I was in a state of bliss. This was the GOOD slut. The kind you would happily be called over and over. More please.

Too much is wrapped up in this four-letter word. Too many pre-conceived notions and ideas about what it means and how it is defined. No woman, open with her sex life and sexuality, is free from it's brand and negative connotations. So I suppose I remain a slut of the secretive kind ... until the day being open about it doesn't bring unfair scrutiny.

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Music to Fuck By

by Jez

Music is a mood setter. Life is always more exciting with a good soundtrack. When looking at homemade porn I'm always a little giggly when a couple is fucking while something as poppy and UN-sexy as Ricky Martin or Beyonce are belting in the background. Then again, to each his own. But I do believe I have excellent taste when it comes to music worth fucking to ... and Cane and I have definitely enjoyed more than one roll in the hay to our own personal favorites. So, below find our own recommendations for the "Ultimate Sex Playlist"---and feel free to comment with recommendations of your own.

1. ANYTHING BY PORTISHEAD. Ok, if forced to pick a track try "Glory Box." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CO3rzijm3Ac

2. "Hanging on a Curtain" by Morphine http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Ei4Xe5Dlw8

3. "Your Joy is My Low" by IAMX http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yB9e6AnYqrw

4. "Paradise Circus" by Massive Attack http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEgX64n3T7g

5. "A Rapture" by Stereo Alchemy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDgJKVT6wVg

6. "Lovely Head" by Goldfrapp http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtX4bV31b1c

7. "I'll Carry You" by Halou http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ewjk_xUBLc

8. "The Fuel" by the Sneaker Pimps http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_p_XUzE8qM4

9. "Pretty When You Cry" Vast http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOZ6ptqcbUc

10. "Plague Burial" Teargas and Plateglass http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-ZmLRGeuk0

11. "Lullaby" The Cure http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDJn1GtgpJ8

12. "The Body is a Stairway of Skin" Over the Rhine http://vimeo.com/3235219

13. Something's Burning" 12 Rounds http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXFgVJ7e0H8

14. "Lovesong" by Snake River Conspiracy (ridiculous name ... but trust us) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4M65Qe_VFg

Pic-Fridays X

Jez Says: I have a weakness when it comes to panties left on during intimate moments. No idea why. Cane has zero interest in lingerie--rather, he likes a girl stark naked. But I still love pretty underwear ... and seeing these images of them with hands reaching into them or roughly tugging at them turns me on in such a fierce way. I go crazy in moments of passion when the urge to fuck is so intense that there is no time to even remove them. Ask Cane about how I react when he just rips them to the side and has his way with me while they remain on my body. It's a bizarre little turn-on of mine that even I don't fully understand. These pictures summon up that feeling for me in both a sweet (picture one) and aggressive (picture two) way.

Cane Says: Decided to change things up from the usual hetro and/or lesbian-friendly to some dude-on-dude action. Again, I'm going to save my general rant about the hypocrisy of the non-vanilla community shunning bi/gay dudes for proper entry. So for now, I submit this scorching hot portrait of bondage and masculinity. The stark black and white, the motion-blur, the obscure faces contribute to the power this picture emits; the thick, throbbing cock of the bound, seized and teased by his captor stirs inside of my a submissive side rarely seen (Jez/strap-on action withstanding).

Web-Vid Wednesdays: A Call for PORN!

Merry Web-Vid Wednesday dear readers:

Porn is time consuming. I'm assuming most of you have done your own searches from time to time. If so, then you recognize the vast and endless rabbit hole one winds up falling into. You can literally spend HOURS rabbit-trailing into endless realms of web-clips. And the worst part? You still might not find what you are looking for.

Anyone who has followed this blog for long knows that I (Jez) tend to be a bit of a porn snob. I like porn to feel real, like I'm a fly on the wall of something actually happening. I HATE pretense (especially because it's handled so badly and cheaply in most porn). I admit my standards can be a bit ridiculous. But occasionally you do find those lovely little gems ... relatively attractive people engaged in intimate, hardcore or just sexy moments. Cane is not as demanding as I am, but even he admits that there is a lot of really bad porn out there. I just can't get turned on by a 35 year old porn star with fake tits pretending to be a 17 year old birthday girl preparing to lose her virginity. I just can't. I CAN laugh my ass off, however, every time she chirps in a baby voice "Oooooh, baby, this is the best birthday present ever!" while looking at some juice-head's dick.

So instead of trying to find things that appeal to just us ... let's try something new. This entry is a call for submissions from you readers. Come on now ... I'm willing to bet a lot of you have favorite and well loved clips bookmarked or hidden on your hard drives. Share it with us! Tell us why you like it, even if it's just one aspect of it (because we all have to make concessions when it comes to free porn). We'll give the clip our own review and post it here. I think it's interesting to see the different things that appeal to different people and honestly it might start a good dialogue on a variety of subjects. So send us things you like and have found out there in the free porn universe.

Please email us; our email address is in our profile. I'd post it right here, but "spider-bots" will find it, then we'll start getting spammed relentlessly. Or, you can use the formspring box in the side-bar and submit anonymously.

....Because good porn should be shared. xo

My Horny Valentine

Well readers, it is time for me to admit that I do like "Valentines Day." Some tout it as a commercial cash-in on consumer's need for affirmation. Others simply look to it as a source of validation, an annoying obligation to their spouse or lover ... or even angrily view it as a stupid holiday that presumes it's not important to express love to a lover every other day. I even have girlfriends who staunchly refuse to acknowledge it--disgusted by a day that reminds them of their solitude. I always liked it--even when I was single. I am of the mind that any day that reminds us to reflect on the gift of romance (or even the absence of it) is a good one. I love to be challenged to be introspective and self-examine. I love a good excuse to heap extra doses of romantic goo all over Cane. I love LOVE.

This is a sex blog--and while (as Woody Allen so delightfully said) "Sex without love is an empty experience, but as far as empty experiences go, it's the best"--I have to say that I have always found that sex without love is never as precious or meaningful as the sex I have within the confines of it. Today I am grateful for Cane--for a man who truly loves me. He fucks me silly. Treats me like a dirty whore in bed. But outside of it, he brings me cupcakes when I have a bad day. He cooks for me when I'm sick. He holds me when I cry over some of the more painful experiences in life. He doesn't yell "GROSS!" when I am puffy and without makeup. He makes me laugh when I am cranky. He has been willing to grow and become more of a Man for me--letting go of his single wild-boy ways. His company outside of the bedroom is just as wonderful as in it--he makes me laugh and enjoys the same nerdy things that I do. I can't imagine my world without him. I love him in ways that words only serve to cheapen. I love him unconditionally.

So today I reflect on love. There are two kinds of love in this world. Selfish love and unconditional love. Selfish love is far more common than unconditional love. Most of us don't naturally grow up able to love unconditionally. It's a kind of love that has to be striven for ... worked for ... grown into.

Selfish love is the kind that seeks its own validation and edification. Those who practice it will choose to enforce their own ideals in a relationship ... to push their partner to say what they need/want to hear ... they will ignore or try to alter that which scares/disagrees with their own desires ... they will require that their lover conform to their own standards and balance is always off when things don't measure up to their expectations. Selfish love is a fantasy love. You have to live in non-reality and you prefer to survive on half-truths. You deny your partner the ability to speak freely. You force your partner to hide parts of themselves. You actually build a wall of lies between you over time ... one which you happily built for your own security, but then become resentful of.

Unconditional love is the kind that seeks the chance to pour itself in full completely into another vessel. It longs to know all there is know of the other person. It craves truth and disclosure because these things allow the love to be fully unconditional--the lover is like a book that must be read in full over and over--cherished like a treasure. It suffers at the idea that the other would need to hide any part of themselves like a scholar who grieves the absence of an answer to an essential formula. It wants to love both the beauty and the flaws. The pure and the profane. It longs to merge in full in such a way that it no longer is identifiable as an individual ... but instead becomes like a tributary that flows into it's lover ... helping it become the mighty river or ocean that he/she knows it can be.

So today I celebrate the beauty of loving someone the way I do Cane--and the way he loves me. This is why we are able to communicate the way we do--the reason we are able to have this blog. May all of you be so fortunate. Happy Valentines Day ... may you love someone the way you wish to be loved in return.

Her: V

My V for the eve of Valentine's.

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