Monday, September 6, 2010

Would you have sex on the first date? The first time you have sex with a special someone, do you think it should be rough or slow and romantic?

I don't really think there is a way to generalize an answer to this question. I was never typically the girl to have sex on the first date, but a lot of that was based on my upbringing and being conditioned to think that this would always be perceived as "undesirable" by men who were relationship material. However, when I met Cane we basically fell into bed before we even went on our first official date. I was drawn to him and we sparked so hard that I wasn't the least bit concerned about him judging me for it. I just knew I wanted him and had to have him. We've been together for years now. So obviously he wasn't the kind of guy to judge me for sleeping with him right away. It may not always be the smartest thing to do, but I don't think it is wrong. I always need to feel a mental attraction and connection with someone to get physical (I was never good at random hook ups--I have to feel interest and respect for you to want to fuck you) so that has typically hindered me on first dates in the past.

As for how first time sex should be ... I don't think that has a specific standard either. I love rough sex. I love romantic and slow sex. And sex that blends a little of both is always super satisfying. Chemistry is chemistry and you feel it whether the sex is rough or slow.

What do you want to know?

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